For those that I hold closest to my heart, there is little left unsaid, no regrets.  They know what they mean to me, they know that I love them, and they know that every moment I spend with them is important.

I knew when my husband was in a coma that it was my opportunity to say any last words to him, bringing closure to our time together here on earth.  Oddly, I also knew in my heart that he knew everything that I felt.  He knew everything I knew.  He knew how much I adored him, how he made my life better than ever, and how he was a great father to our kids.  He knew he made me a better person.  The only thing he didn’t know was that it was ok for him to let go and for him to move on to his next journey, with no regrets.    

As I travel to visit my parents who are in their eighties, I think about what it is that I can say to them that is important and that I want them to know.  Every visit I come to the same conclusion, they know everything that I know. They know I love them. They know the positive qualities that I love about them and they know I love spending time with them. They know they’re a priority in my life, no regrets.

I pray that I have the right opportunity to say whatever it is that someone in my life needs to hear or should hear. I believe that if today was the last day that I saw someone in my life, there would be nothing that I felt I should have said, no regrets.

I will never forget sitting at my husband’s side feeling both anxious and content that he already knew everything that I could possibly think to tell him. Why would I leave something unsaid, when something that important, that powerful, could be shared with someone I love?

When a thought is put in my head I am purposeful at articulating that appropriately to the person. I try very hard to make sure I don’t have things that I wish I had said.  I will forever be grateful that my husband knew every day of his life what he meant to me and how he made me feel.

Of course, some of those things need to be filtered if they’re negative things, but something negative can be put in a manner that is productive and in the end, has a positive outcome. For the most part, I’m talking here about things positive and productive that we withhold from telling people. We withhold for whatever reasons. Maybe the reason is that we don’t have time, maybe the reason is that they don’t say kind things to us, maybe the reason is that we don’t have as much respect for them as we did at one time, or maybe it’s because we don’t think about it.

Although this is not something I dwell on or discuss, if someone very close to me died at any instance, I feel strongly that I would be at peace knowing they knew exactly how much they meant to me. I have faith that I will be guided through prayer as to what and how to say any information important for my loved ones to hear. It is a priority for me, no regrets. 

Just hours after drafting this blog titled, No Regrets, a friend contacted me regarding one of our dearest, closest, friends.  She had gone to be with the Lord this past weekend.  I will miss her dearly, but I knew she was ready. She was ready because she wanted to reunite with her husband.  She continually dealt with health issues gracefully, but she was tired. She had battled illnesses throughout the 30 years I knew her. When I first heard the news, my heart sank because she was a strong positive influence on my life. At the same time, I knew she was ready. She knew how important she was to me, and I knew how grateful we each were for our friendship. No regrets, only blessings.  

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