Does anyone really want to feel invisible? From time to time, it might cross one’s mind that it would be fun to be invisible, but not to feel invisible.  Whenever I feel invisible I ask myself why I feel that way. Is it because I am surrounded by people that I don’t know? Or because I’m in an unfamiliar place and feeling insecure about myself? Could it be that I am unprepared?  Is my body language unknowingly dictating a desire to be invisible?

As a child, before school field trips, I remember wondering if I would have anyone to sit with on the bus.  Would I be sitting in a seat alone again?  Am I invisible?  I never had the security of a best friend to sit with on the bus.  I had friends that I enjoyed, but never a “go-to” person.  Eventually, I decided it was ok to be sitting alone.  No one really noticed and I began to enjoy it. 

I became comfortable with being on my own and going places by myself.  It was not my preference but it was ok.  It didn’t make me feel invisible.  By choice, I seem to gravitate toward those who are not among crowds of people.  I began to realize that I enjoyed meeting and talking individually with people.  I was operating within my comfort zone.

Don’t get me wrong, I love a great party!  I am very good at being the center of attention when it is required.  I have no problem gathering a crowd together when necessary. But by choice, I’m an introvert.  I will always choose the perimeter versus the center of attention.  

There’s a difference between enjoying and being comfortable on the perimeter and feeling invisible on the perimeter.  I have moments of feeling invisible, but my faith has allowed me to enjoy being an introvert.  For me, it is a gift to be able to listen, learn, experience, and enjoy what is going on around me without being in the center of the action. 

I made a decision not to be invisible, but to be an introvert who is comfortable in allowing other people to take the lead and to enjoy what’s around me. I fight any thoughts that say I’m invisible because I’m not. I contribute in many ways as I enjoy the perimeter.  I pray for the opportunity to focus on others, to listen, and to learn.

I believe people want to feel appreciated and loved.  Often we don’t know how to open ourselves up to love.  We hide and begin to feel invisible.  Be the light for those who are not able to see beyond being invisible.  I love being an introvert, but I choose not to be invisible.  I choose to live for something greater.

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