Any questions that cloud my mind regarding others are typically the first warning signal of something that I need to work on myself. I find that when something judgmental comes to my mind, it is a learning tool that I can use to think about and adapt to my life.

If a fleeting judgmental thought crosses my mind, I take note and try to take that thought and put it back on me.  When my mind is alerted to someone who acts prideful, instead of addressing the person, I look to myself to eliminate that type of behavior.  If my thoughts are troubled by someone’s lack of kindness, I use that to reflect on how I treat others.  

Are my words and behavior reflecting what I am seeing from others?  Am I joining the questionable actions, or am I removing myself and learning from the warning signals I am receiving?      

Think about when you are listening to someone who might be exaggerating the truth.  As you are listening, thoughts start to form in your mind regarding the explanation.  When I recognize my judgmental thoughts forming, I say a quick prayer, “Lord, please help me to tell the simple truth.”  It is a reminder for me to keep honest and true.  

I don’t usually address potential exaggerated truth, I very well could be wrong.  But I do take the opportunity to remind myself that the simple truth is what I strive to achieve.  If I feel uncomfortable regarding the exaggerated truth, I quietly remove myself from the situation.

When I am asked for advice on how to address a situation where the person doesn’t want to hurt another person’s feelings with what they have to say, I  recommend the simple truth.  Sometimes it requires an apology for double booking, for needing to cancel because of something else you are required to attend, or maybe because you don’t feel up to fulfilling the commitment.  

It is important to realize how often one feels the need to exaggerate the truth.  Change of plans and no shows happen on occasion, but routine excuses can quickly turn to disappointment.  At any given moment, social media can quickly illuminate exaggerated truth. 

Eliminating judgmental thoughts is my goal; however, when a judgmental thought enters my mind, I take a moment to pray and reflect on the core issue, challenging myself to learn from the judgment I questioned. 

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