Each day, I strive to share love without blame.  I have moments when judgment sneaks in, but I quickly change my thoughts to what I can do to improve the current situation. 

Sometimes that means I have to let go of something that was said or done.  Other times, I can let compassion take over and better understand the current situation.  What I like best is when the situation allows me to grow through simply taking a moment to see a different perspective than my own. 

Blame has yet to work in my favor.   Sometimes I am wrong, and other times I might be thinking correctly but am missing facts that change the outcome. 

What I do like is to find out why there is a need to blame.  Why does someone have to be right and the other wrong?

When we understand what is really going on, it is easier to skip the blame and move to a solution.   For me, this requires compassion to see past the anger to gain an understanding of the real issue.  When I allow myself to engage in the anger, I miss what is at the core of the problem.

It might be that there is no blame, simply numerous disappointments leading to a momentary blowup.  Instead of engaging, I give the person some needed space, a moment to take a walk, time to close the door, and regain composure.  Following up to see if there is anything they want to talk about or discuss.

What appears to be blame might be deeply rooted in a different issue.  If I engage in blame and anger, I miss the opportunity for gaining understanding through compassion. 

When anger and blame surface, I move to a simple prayer, “Thank you, Jesus, for showing me the way, for speaking through me.”  The prayer immediately shifts my focus to love.  I then enter the situation, not focused on blame but on kindness. 

Love without blame opens the door for compassion, understanding, and peace.

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