Compassion is something that comes naturally to some people, but most of us have to cultivate this quality.  Showing concern for others, listening to others, and being there for someone in need, are all ways one can show compassion to others.

Showing Concern For Others

As I walk into a room filled with hundreds of people, my eyes go to people who are not surrounded by crowds and laughter.  I see people that are alone.  I see the opportunity to make people feel more comfortable in their surroundings. 

It is nice to be part of the in-crowd, but often I find it more fulfilling to search out those who are not surrounded by people.  Normally, a few questions regarding what they enjoy or how they spend their free time will start a conversation aimed at learning something about the other person.  If that question draws a blank stare, I might ask if they have family in the area. 

Sometimes the person doesn’t want to be bothered and I politely excuse myself from the conversation.  Most times I learn a lot about someone new and often other people end up joining the conversation. 

Listening To Others

Once a conversation is started, then my listening skills are put to the test.  It is wonderful to say hello to someone, but asking questions and listening to the reply are crucial steps in showing compassion.  Greeting someone is very nice.  Listening to what they have to say takes compassion to the next level.   

When I commit to listening to someone, it means that I actively listen.  When I am actively listening, I make eye contact, I show emotions based on what is being said, and most importantly, I say very little. 

I stay silent until there is a pause and then I say something that tells them I was listening.  I might say that I am excited about the new direction they are taking or that I am sorry for what they are going through.  I don’t talk about myself.  I don’t relate their story to me.  I don’t tell them that I know exactly how they are feeling, because I don’t know how they are feeling.  I do tell them I am available to listen if they choose. 

After listening to someone, I rarely add my opinion unless it is requested and constructive.  Listening can be difficult and very tiring.  It takes strength to be there for people when they need someone who will listen.  When you allow yourself to feel compassion, listening becomes a gift.

Being There For Others

There are times when showing compassion can be as simple as being there for someone.  An offer is made to stay with someone who is sick while someone goes home and takes a shower or rests.  A phone that is answered every time someone reaches out.  The knowledge that if a favor is needed, there is a person who will help them out.  Sometimes it may be as simple as being quiet and present in the same space.      

Showing compassion or concern for others can bring great joy to both those who give and receive.  I pray that I recognize opportunities to bless others with compassion and I am grateful for the abundance of compassion shown to our family throughout my lifetime.

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