I have been getting better at keeping my emotions in check.   As I work on managing all of life‘s crazy turns, I find staying focused to be extremely helpful.  Trying to minimize the number of surprises and becoming more aware of the trigger points that are around me are two very helpful things.

I am intentional about recognizing situations that escalate the noise in my environment.  As the warning signals become visible, I move to prayer.  I focus myself on things that will deflect the situation.  That might include changing the conversation, moving locations, or possibly ignoring the invitation to get involved in the noise. 

When I see the warning signs of the noise, I try to divert the situation.  The easiest way for me to spot the interference is when those I know do things out of character.  It might be voice tone, actions, or withdrawal from their normal routine. 

The first thing I do is pray for them.  Unless Jesus directs me to say or do something, my answer is prayer.

If the problem lies in the person’s tone of voice, I make a mental note not to allow myself to match their tone.  I also make one or two attempts to de-escalate the noise.  As I am praying my way through the issue, I trust the best solution will surface. 

If the problem still exists and anger persists, I normally remove myself from the situation, eliminating the person’s ability to further engage in verbal combat.  I continue to pray for a solution and de-escalation of anger. 

Staying in prayer helps me not engage in the noise and is the best way I know to help someone move away from anger.  I have yet to find the right words to speak to an angry person without including Jesus in the solution.

When it comes to withdrawing or disengagement, I pray for Jesus to restore their hope and to lead them to the light.  It is my job to stay focused on prayer and to live with love and compassion.  When the person is ready to engage, I will be prepared with understanding. 

I always ask myself, am I staying in check with what Jesus desires of me?

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