When my mind takes me to a situation where I am starting to judge those around me, I stop and think about the lesson.  Often finding that I too have made that same judgment.  I like to think it is Jesus giving me a little push to recognize my shortcomings.  I find myself thinking, that could be me. 

In the past couple of years, two things have stuck out as being particularly influential in making it easier for me to be more patient and kinder when out and about in public.  The first is COVID and the second is teenagers. 

The lesson I learned from COVID-19 is that it is hard to get employees.  There are jobs available, but not enough people to fill the positions.  We all have had to be patient with the customer service we receive. 

Most of the people working are doing the best they can in a situation with too few employees.  When my thoughts turn judgmental, I look around, and often the problem is the need for more workers.  My thoughts quickly turn to compassion and encouragement, and judgments disappear.  A small amount of kindness will usually brighten the person’s day.  I always like to add a silent prayer of strength and encouragement.    

Adolescents have also opened my eyes to some important lessons.  Anxiety is lurking around kids in most areas of their lives.  When I start to get frustrated with a teenager, my mind shifts to compassion and understanding as I recognize the pressure of being a kid in today’s environment.

I am aware of the anxiety because I have two teenagers and am often around kids.  However, anxiety is high all around us.  Kindness, patience, and a smile go a long way to help encourage someone having a stressful day.

When I feel criticism start to emerge I quickly evaluate if this is a lesson I should be learning for myself.  Kindness will always win over evil.  Jesus is the only one that needs to know we are doing the right thing!  We all can learn beautiful lessons as we mentor and coach others with compassion and love. 

A quote from Dalai Lama, “Our prime purpose in this life is to help others.  And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.”  I would add, pray for them, and love them.

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