It would be nice if relationships stayed healthy and strong with no need to foster or cultivate positive synergy.  However, for most of us, we need to invest some attention to those close to us.  Once in the habit of fostering love for those we know, it becomes contagious to those around us.     

In recent years I have heard the term “secret sauce” used in various places, but the first time I heard it used was by a marketing consultant in Boston many years ago.  His strategy is to uncover the business’ special ingredient that makes up its secret sauce and then build the strategy around that strength. 

The special ingredient of our business at the time was the employees.  We had a synergistic group of people who cared about each other and the business.  My most important job was to foster those relationships on a daily basis.

The best way I know how to cultivate relationships is to give people some attention and love.  It doesn’t work when the fostering is manufactured or fake.  It requires a genuine level of interest in the person as a human being.

If one pays attention to the people around them it doesn’t take much effort to find something important or interesting to each individual.  It requires one to listen and make a mental note as people interact around you.  I listen for topics that bring a sparkle to the person’s face.    

Without listening and engaging in a conversation, it is difficult to foster a relationship.  An introduction can be as simple as a smile or a hello.  It tells someone that you are open to a conversation.  Ask an open-ended question that requires more than a yes or no answer.  Then listen for things they enjoy and clues to the special ingredient in their secret sauce. 

The number one ingredient in my secret sauce is Jesus.  When I surrender control to him fostering relationships becomes much easier.  I rely on prayer to help focus my thoughts on love, compassion, and kindness. 

What is the special ingredient in your secret sauce?        

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